A Love That's Bliss

Growing up in Evangelical Christianity, I always heard people say that the first year of marriage is hard. And over the years, I’ve heard so many couples talk about the difficulties of marriage, struggling together, and fighting to earn a healthy marriage.

While I don't want to discredit anyone's relationship or the work they put in to be healthy individually and together, I admit that a relationship of struggle holds no appeal to me. I was never interested in finding a partner that I would have to fight with and against and grind just to have a status quo that's agreeable.

I wanted a partner. I wanted someone who had put in the work to heal from their traumas. Who had learned how to communicate. And I wanted to be and do those things in return.

And I was stubborn and refused to settle for less...

I found it. I found a love that wasn't surrounded by conflict but walked in the peace of understanding, support, respect, and communication. I found a love that felt like coming home.

Our first year of marriage was the best year of my life. My husband is my safest place. My best friend.

If love has done you dirty. Or you haven't found a person you're confident and enthusiastic about sharing your life with, I leave this here as a signal. Peace-filled, respectful, healthy, and blissed out in love relationships do exist. We just have to love ourself enough to never settle for less.

Love yourself and do the work of healing. And find someone who’s done their work. Then, you won’t have to expect a bumpy start. You can go straight to bliss.